I haven't been keeping up with my regular schedule for this blog by posting every single Friday. When asked why, my initial response is to blame. I say, "Oh, well I've just been so busy with my new job," or, "I haven't had the time." At first glance, these statements appear sound, but a closer look reveals fallacious blaming on external events/concepts; in this case on "my new job" and "time."
When I'm being mindful (i.e.: thinking about what I'm thinking about), I catch myself in the act of blaming instead of taking responsibility for my own actions. The facts are plain and simple: nobody told me I couldn't post to my blog once I acquired a new job, no one is telling me I need to spend less time writing and blogging. There is literally nothing standing in my way of following through on my commitment - except myself.
My rationalizing-self might argue these points and say, "well, I'm working full-time for the first time in my life and it's really a huge adjustment." And to this, my objective-self says, "Okay, great! So it's a huge adjustment! But, SO WHAT? You still haven't given me a reason why you can't post to your blog!"
The objective-self always wins the logic duel, because the objective-self is...well...objective. Beef-up your objective thought processes in your battle against the weak part of the mind by challenging rationalizations.
All this being said, the implication is not that you must blame yourself. Taking responsibility for your actions doesn't mean you beat yourself down. Quite the contrary. You pull yourself up with thoughts of encouragement and positive action! It is an act of self-love when you point your own nose towards the truth or reality rather than evading it.
Ethan Small has been posting to Friendly Warrior since 2013 with his experiences and wisdom to inspire others to improve their quality of life.
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