Many of us feel as though we are failures. Or perhaps we feel that our mistakes are failures. Either way, I believe a small percentage of these perceived failures are actually failures.
In reality, failure only truly occurs when a person makes a mistake and does not reflect upon it, taking the lesson or deeper meaning from that experience which will enrich and enhance their life in future situations. Actual failure is when a person stops trying.
The other day, I became extremely overwhelmed by a contradiction between my thoughts and actions. Everything seems to spiral out of control and I felt helpless. Eventually, I gave up and allowed my negative emotions to overcome me instead of grasping them and taking back the control. The failure wasn't the content of what happened that day. Rather the failure was my inability to step back and detach from my circumstances. I failed to be the friendly warrior that I am in my heart.
Upon reflection, I learned my lesson, which is that I have much work to do. I forgot the other day that this fight is an ongoing series of battles, some of which will end in victory and others failure. However, the only true failures are the ones which we do not utilize to better ourselves, even if simply to forgive ourselves for the defeat. To reiterate, true defeat occurs when we beat ourselves up about a loss. From this we become weaker, when there was equal potential to use the same energy to grow stronger.
Ethan Small has been posting to Friendly Warrior since 2013 with his experiences and wisdom to inspire others to improve their quality of life.
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