All of us give and receive conflicting messages. Take for example the following positive, yet opposing statements: "You are perfect just the way you are!" vs. "You can do great things!"
The first message implies, you're perfect, so no need to do anything. The second, suggests you need to get up and do something.
I like the latter because I want to be action-oriented and make things happen. But the implication is that I, you, and the world at large are not good enough the way we are now. So the challenge, then, is not feeling guilty for lacking perfection, not feeling bad for failing to meet the mark. This is the premise of my blog...we need to be warriors who fight for a better life.
But what about accepting things just as they are? Is there any merit to that mindset?
In fact, the two messages are not as conflicting as they appear. I have found that change most quickly and naturally occurs when I set a strong, firm intention and then loosen up and go with the flow. This is opening one's eyes to the fact that even though you have control over your life, you aren't God...you can't control everything.
Struggle is part of life, and we should fight for our rights to freedom and peace. But freedom and peace are not a fight within themselves. They are most deeply accepting; relaxed and calm. We can make the most progress in our lives by being strong in our intentions and relaxed in allowing things to happen instead of forcing them.
Have a great weekend.
Ethan Small has been posting to Friendly Warrior since 2013 with his experiences and wisdom to inspire others to improve their quality of life.
First time here? Start with these posts:
10 Reasons Pain is Good
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Persistence Makes Perfect