Imagine perpetually falling down a black hole and never hitting a bottom. This is the emotional space you occupy by not making a choice – especially a major life choice, such as your home, partner, career, etc.
Many of us are endlessly falling down this pit of despair because we fear making the wrong choice. Maybe we made decisions in the past that led us to feel such great pain, that to choose again is unthinkable. Or, we are simply overwhelmed by the sheer number of options, paths, and varieties on the table that we are paralyzed.
This has been me before, on both accounts. But, I overcame the hell of being caught in limbo by taking action. It’s not something you do once and then you are free. Our experience of freedom versus stuck-ness will always exist on a spectrum, except in brief moments.
Not making a choice is like drinking poison. Because of the insidious nature of suffering, indecision can creep into our consciousness without our even noticing. A massive failing of choice (real or perceived) can easily leak down into doubts over which cereal to buy at the grocery store and which entrée to order for dinner. At that point, life begins to feel like a gigantic question mark is constantly staring us in the face. Yikes! Pretty distracting and unnerving, indeed.
So what do we do to get out of this self-imposed prison?
Nothing will clarify both external and internal truth better than taking action. Action produces consequences and feedback that we can then integrate into our understanding of the world and ourselves.
“Action is the antidote to despair”
– Joan Baez
This is why fear is humanities worst enemy. Fear is holding ourselves back. Fear is being ignorant. Fear is choosing safety over the mere possibility failure. Fear leads to suffering. Fear is suffering. As you can see, the prison of indecision is not a personal problem. It is a societal problem. The more you unchain yourself from indecision, the more humanity as a whole evolves and grows.
What choices are you putting off because of fear? What do you need to take action on now? What cannot wait any longer? Today is the day to take care of unmet needs, unresolved conflicts, and unmade decisions. You can do this.
Life has two forms of experience – physical and metaphysical. The physical experience happens through your body and is the five senses of perception: taste, touch, smell, sound, and sight. The metaphysical happens through your mind and is the sixth sense of perception: emotions, feeling, and imagination.
I believe that imagination trumps all the other modalities of experience in terms of its magnitude and importance in determining our experience of reality. Imagination is the capacity to taste, touch, smell, hear, and see things that are not physically present. Imagination is also the capacity to experience things that are physically present in different ways. At a certain point, the question becomes, where is the line between what we physically experience and what is a matter of our minds?
What many see as life’s great mystery is the paradox of experience being both within us and without us. Like a wet bar of soap, reality is always escaping our grasp and evading definition. There is beauty and pain in this truth. The beauty is that we hold the key to our experience but the pain is we lack control of ourselves – therefore, putting the key in the lock is immensely challenging. We hurt and harm ourselves and everything around us in the pursuit of fulfillment. Every human wants the same fundamental thing – just in different ways, by different means.
Friendly Warrior is a Personal Development Blog abundant with wisdom and honesty — Ethan Small has been posting to Friendly Warrior since 2013 with the intent of inspiring others to improve their quality of life.
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