YOU can not only be your own therapist, but you are perhaps the best person for the job. No one knows you better than you. Here's how I did it:
- I starting writing down my thoughts in a journal. When I feel confused or 'down', I write. This gives me immediate clarity and a sense of relief.
- I started taking responsibility for my emotions. As with any self-improvement subject I will ever discuss, SELF-AWARENESS is key. When I become aware of my negative feelings, I take actions to transform the negative energy into positive energy to the best of my ability. Instead of blaming others for making me upset or angry, I view my emotions as a choice. Therefore, if I had to choice to become angry, I can just as simply choose to become content and relaxed. Sometimes this means exercising, dancing, phoning a friend, etc...
- I talk to myself in the mirror. Intrapersonal communication is highly stigmatized in our society. If you see someone walking down the street talking to themselves, the normal reaction is to assume they are crazy or on drugs. In reality, talking to one's self if natural and healthy. When I feel really down, I look myself in the eye and pump myself up. I say, "I am strong, I am worthy, I CAN." This immediately boosts my self-esteem and brings positive energy into my body.
- As much as possible, I observe my thoughts objectively rather than judgmentally. When you feel bad about feeling bad, naturally you feel even worse. If you understand that feeling bad is a normal part of life and being human, than you are much quicker to get back on the path to feeling good again. Try it.